Listen. As a mom, I get it. I’m used to
managing everyone’s appointments
, medications, snacks, shoes, and general survival. So when I saw TikToker Sam Hart (@
thesam_show
) share what she witnessed at her allergist’s office, I felt an all-too-familiar secondhand frustration – and also maybe just a little bit of “I FREAKING KNEW IT.”
Sam was sitting in the waiting room at her allergists’s office, anticipating her turn to get her shots, when a man walked in for his own allergy test and proceeded to unravel like a toddler who overslept in the car.
The nurse asked if he’d taken any allergy medication recently, a routine question, because, as literally every doctor, nurse, and pre-appointment form will tell you, you’re supposed to be off them for 7 to 10 days before the test.
Instead of giving a simple yes or no, this man (who appeared to be in his 50s, by the way) said he didn’t know because his wife handles all his medications.
Yeah.
Now, let’s take a quick sec. The nurse who asked him was not talking about a complicated medication schedule or a surprise diagnosis. We’re talking about antihistamines. Common ones. Over-the-counter ones. The kind even my bleary-eyed tween knows to stop before a checkup.
When the man appeared to be confused, the nurse offered to let him call his wife to clarify. This is when he doubled down and not in a good way. The patient began getting huffy, defensive, and borderline aggressive, insisting no one had told him not to take allergy meds (which, of course, they had).
In other words, he blamed the nurses, his wife, and the entire system – managing to skirt his own accountability entirely.
Impressive footwork, TBH..
The TikTokker, like the rest of us, was stunned that
this man
thought it was completely reasonable to offload basic health responsibilities onto his spouse. A grown-a$$ man, who then had the audacity to act outraged when it caused an issue.
In stunned bewilderment, the TikTok comment section became a symposium of similar stories.
One commenter wrote that her grandpa once microwaved a slice of pizza for
10 minutes
while her grandma was away, simply because he had never used the microwave before. (Can you imagine the scene in that microwave?)
Another said that in her years working in vet med, anytime a man brought the family pet in solo, he’d be totally clueless. The vet tech said hey were always grateful when the wife sent a note explaining the pet’s condition.
Someone else added, “My husband barely knows what meds he takes, and absolutely no clue what our teenager takes. Every man in leadership at my company? Their wives are running their entire lives behind the scenes.”
BRUH. Come on!
As a mom who handles everything from the pediatrician to the school forms to managing everyone’s allergy meds, I’m not saying we deserve a medal. We’d settle for just a
little
accountability from the grown men who still act like it’s someone else’s job to know when to take a Claritin.
This isn’t just about meds. It’s about how women are expected to carry the invisible load – while some men still can’t carry a basic instruction without blaming someone else when it all goes sideways.
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